The Cat Ladies

October 12, 2021 at 10:31 pm (Uncategorized) (, , , )

A few years ago I was given the opportunity to care for a beautiful elderly lady living with her flight attendant daughter and just a few cats. One of the stories goes like this the two ladies were eating dinner at the time. The kitchen is off the back deck, all of a sudden a beautiful cat came up to the back door and just sat there looking in. The mother just sighed and said ‘there’s another one wanting to get in’. Well her name ended up being Annie. 

Another time, the daughter was just taking her walk(I kid you not) with her three cats in tow. There would take a walk around the block and then go back inside the house. One evening the daughter noticed another cat joining them on the walk. His name became Ricky. In the end, they ended up with ten cats all together. They live in a beautiful Victorian home on a tree- lined street where deer and moose show up in the fall and stay around for a couple days eating the trees.

I met the ladies a few years ago after my brother and I used to drive around looking at the the nice water front homes and taking pictures. my brother and I always loved the Victorian homes and were in awe at how gorgeous the landscape is. One day I was driving by the home and saw the daughter outside working on her lawn. I got brave and went over to talk with her. As it was, she was looking for someone who could stay nights with her mother while she flew. We became fast friends and to saw I had a dream job was an understatement. I cared for this elderly lady for three years.

After the mother passed away, her daughter asked if I would still watch her kitties since she still had to fly twice a month. I stayed there for another four years until I had too much going on and was unable to anymore. 

I found out what being envious of another is. I was able to stay at what you would call a luxury resort it was that special to I would come home to my small house that I wished had some of the charm of the their home. The daughter helped me a little to add to my home but over time my good friends helped me paint, plant some trees in my backyard and expand my back patio. I put in a memorial garden in honor of my sons, and started to make my house really feel like a home.  Yes, I have a ranch style house but with Victorian charm. 

I am glad I had the opportunity to be part of the Stuart ladies lives and was able to care for the mother and later the cats. I have learned to stay home on my days off and like my staycations every week. With the pandemic and flight cancellations mess, I didn’t really want to travel anyway. I put up my fall decorations and put my warm comforter on my bed and I am all ready for the snow to fly. Life is full of lessons and sometimes you have to look at what you do have and appreciate it and I have learned to love where I live. 

Someone asked me one time what was the best feature in my home I turned my son’s old bedroom into my dressing room. I love getting dressed there in the morning and putting on my pajamas at night. I know of so many who has lost a child and cannot bear to open the bedroom door. I think Levi would have been happy I chose to transform his bedroom into a space where I can come in a get dressed and sip my cup of coffee in the morning. His old book shelf that a friend gave to him many years ago, became my new book shelf full of my Author friends books.

 

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Finding Sanity

October 6, 2021 at 10:31 pm (Uncategorized) (, , )

This has been a crazy, exhausting, struggle this week. My place of employment is not a skeleton crew anymore, we are now calling ourselves the shoe string crew. With those out sick and the rest of us working to fill the shifts, I can say I am proud of my co-workers that we are bridging the gap and working through exhaustion and caring for our guys. 

I understand that no one wants to apply for a job because of the variant strain out their but businesses are closing their doors for lack of staff.  Patience is in limited supply right now. Sometimes you want to tell a customer it isn’t the checkers fault the lettuce costs a mere 20 cents more right now. truckers to deliver the food is in short supply right now. fast food places are in short staff mode as well. They really are trying to keep up with orders and maybe did put tomatoes on your order by mistake. do you really need to be rude to them for your order? 

I just feel a black cloud hanging over our Country right now and so many people has commented on the how hostile people are getting. Kids shooting kids at school, parents taking the kids out of school because of mask mandates and vaccinations debates, mental health declines, big box stores has made a mint on home deliveries and curbside pickups. People are afraid to go out anymore for fear of shootings, being the wrong ethnic race, walking after dark, I hope this is not the new normal. So many are just staying home instead of enjoying their community ( a fight breaks out for no reason it seems like). 

Anymore you need proof of being vaccinated to go into dine out, go to the movies, meet friends at a bar, no big gatherings, the concerts and fairs are resulting in spikes of the Covid19, so we are basically back to where we were last year. No family gathering again, sometimes it is hard to find the silver lining in all of this. I think the most important thing you can do for yourself is self- care. It is okay not to want to get together for a drink right now, not go for that scenic drive with friends, not go to that concert just yet. It is okay to take caution for what is at risk out there. 

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Turning 60

September 28, 2021 at 11:18 pm (Uncategorized)

I have been blessed with so many birthday wishes from family and friends.  My birthday wasn’t quite the same without celebrating with my twin, but you make the best of it. If it makes me feel any better, Jeff told me he had to work also.  Softens the blow a little bit.

All kidding aside as we get older, we usually are far apart and don’t get the chance to be together as often as we would like. Most of the family had moved away a few years ago, so celebrations have changed. I have a couple of friends who I can get together with for a birthday coffee or lunch. This is really the first year anyone has been able to have dinner parties or dine out . 

Turning 60 this year has not been any different for me than the past birthdays. My life is still the same as it was when both my husband and my son passed away. You have to find the beauty in each new day to celebrate even if you are happy the lawn was mowed. Everyday we live with the choice of being a lemon taster or living life to the fullest. I can always find something to be thankful for even if circumstances seems impossible there is always a silver lining somewhere. 

I really look forward to the next ten years of my life. I have a job in health care that I love, mom is still here, I have the love and support from  my family and my friends, my health, my forever home, my son’s old bedroom I have turned into my dressing room, it is finally tuning into fall my favorite time of the year. I have the best neighbors anyone could ask for always willing to lend a hand, seasonal coffee creamers, my bible study sisters, and so much more to look forward to in my near future!

I know some people grimace at the thought of turning 60, 70, 80 and beyond. Age is just a number that is it. You are only as old as you feel. You know that 60 is the new 30, Sixty and fabulous, I always love to hear “you are how old? No way’. I am still to young for tissue in every pocket, once a week hair do and the weekly pill organizer. I plan to embrace my new decade and have some more fun along the way.

 

 

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Another Decade Ahead

September 22, 2021 at 12:45 am (Uncategorized) (, , )

My twin brother hates it when I include him on any story. But when you celebrate your birthday together, well….

My brother and I will be 60 years old next week.  I don’t know I you would call it a milestone because we have sure been through a lot the past few years. personal tragedies, health scares, we both live in another state, we don’t keep in touch as much as we would both like to, we are as different as night and day. With the virus scare it saddens me we cannot celebrate a nice dinner together and look at model homes or go for a scenic drive around the older neighborhoods like we used to do. 

We both grew up on a ranch raising ducks, chickens, sheep, horses, cows and various other animals we had to wake up early yo feed every morning. Our friends were jealous we were able to ride our horses or play with the bunny rabbits anytime we wanted. We told them we would trade places with them anytime; they didn’t realize you were awakened early to feed and water the animals, clean out the pens, horses were exercised everyday(not when it was fun) and if you have a 4H animal like say a lamb, you walked the animal on a leash around the circular driveway for a mile every night. About this time our friends passed on spending the weekend.

Happy birthday to best big brother I know. We had some good times and lived through some very difficult ones as well but in the end, there is no one I would rather have for my brother but you!

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On A Positive Note

September 16, 2021 at 5:29 pm (Uncategorized)

I can understand how so many people can be well lemon tasters. I know the last year has been met with so much fear, controversy, and unhappiness. The kids were home schooled not by choice, parents had to work from home plus pick up teaching duties, our favorite places to dine were closed, no ball games, concerts, visitations for the holidays were kept to close family only. I get it.

Some people put on a happy face but it is just that a face. They hide sorrows disappointments, loss of loved ones, sheltering at home, mask mandates, there are so many reasons people may hide behind a smile. It is easy to just say “I am doing fine” because we really know the other person was asking in passing or really didn’t have the time to chat.  For some, a smile may be a way they can deal with thier stress. 

I think some people read too much into someone who always seems happy go lucky like they don’t have a care in the world. Further could be from the truth. A friend of mine is losing her husband due to Covid19. By nature she is an upbeat and bubbly person. I am sure there are people who are genuinely concerned for her and her family and those who don’t really know what to say so the put both feet in thier mouth. I admire her faith to be assured that her husband is getting the best care possible and she does have a strong network of friends and family who are giving her support.

I know when I lost my son Levi, I could not believe some of the comments people would day to me. I finally just came home, sat down with a cold cup of coffee and let the remarks go. it took some time to get over some of the hurtful comments but I knew I made the most difficult choice in my life and I know my son is in a better place than where he was suffering. I still miss his mischievous smile, his sparkling eyes and most of all his infectious laugh he had. (on my desk, i have the only picture of him laughing. he was at his friend’s house taking pictures. he had a hairy stomach so he was showing it off for the camera). I cherish that picture of him because he was having a really fun afternoon with friends. 

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Where Were You?

September 10, 2021 at 7:46 pm (Uncategorized) (, )

Where were you and what were you doing when you heard the devastating new that The Twin towers were just hit by terrorists in planes?

At the time, I owned my own Daycare/ Kinder Center out of my home. I got my son up for school that morning. After he left for the bus stop, I started to get phone calls from the parents saying they had called in sick and just wanted to be home with the family. I hadn’t had the chance to turn on the local news yet so I was perplexed as to why I was closed that day.

I decided to shower and get ready for  the day and maybe since I was off, I could run a few errands. Something told me to go to my church and just hang out with the Pastor and staff instead. I drove into the parking lot, went into the coffee shop where I found my pastor, some staff and a few more people setting around the table with the TV on. that is when I found out about the Twin towers and the Pentagon bombing.

I remember how full the churches were the first two months after the attacks. Then after everything quieted down, the people stopped coming. I feel at least for a time, folks could have a shoulder to cry on, exchange ideas on what happened, or just had a safe place to come when there was so much confusion, unrest, and fear going on in America.

 

Where were you when 911 happened and what were you doing at the time?

 

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Made My day

September 5, 2021 at 10:07 pm (Uncategorized) ()

Yesterday morning, I set off to run a few errands. One of them being paying my homeowners insurance. I walked into the office with the Agent on the phone so I sat down in the waiting area. I noticed a cute little four year old playing with her stuffed kitty.

The cute little girl came over to me and just looked at me. I asked her her name and she replied “what’s your name?” I told her and she grunted and proceeded to tell me about her kitty. I thought this little girl was the cutest kid. She let me hear the (now known as a lion) roar his mechanical roar. I did a mock  noise for her benefit. About this time the agent called me in.

As I sat down her daughter sat beside me in the other chair holding in her hand pen and paper. The agent looked nervous and asked me if it was alright that her daughter sat beside me.” I told her of course it is.” the mother told me her daughter has never sat beside someone before that she doesn’t know and commented that her daughter must really like me. ( besides I had a couple signatures I needed to give the little helper for her records). After the little helper was finished up, she went into the next room to to play.

I have to say this one errand I had to run turned really made my ho hum day. I am glad little Piper was there keeping her mom company while she worked, shared her kitties roar with me, she trusted me enough to set beside me and play office for a few minutes with me. I thought it was cute that her notebook had what looked like shorthand written on the page.  I think it is wonderful that this sweet little angel can sometimes go to work with her mom and hang out. so many parents don’t get this opportunity to share thier day with the kiddoes’.          

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Grateful Tuesday

August 31, 2021 at 9:52 pm (Uncategorized) (, , )

Here are some things I am grateful for for today.

I am grateful for my job in healthcare that I love.

I am grateful for the love and support of my friends and family.

I am grateful to have my twin brother to grow up with.

I am grateful the temperature outside is much cooler today.

I am grateful for an idea for today’s post.

A good friend whose kids helped me with my shredding today.

I am grateful my brother will be around to celebrate our 60th birthday.

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Call Me Old

August 26, 2021 at 8:59 pm (Uncategorized) (, , , )

I can remember when I was in JR High School certain subjects were taught. Home Economics being one of them. You learned how to sew, cook, clean up afterwards, and work in teams. You still Gym class where yes you were expected to participate in a game of dodge ball. We were lucky to get a few really good teachers who made learning fa fun experience. 

In High school, we had electives we could take  such as Art, working on the year Book(taking pictures at lunchtime) learning how to put together the year book, Shop class, life Skills Class where you learned how to balance a check book, learned how to budget, fill out a job application, Driver’s Ed, Child development Class yes we learned where babies came from and how much work it would be to have one as a teen. 

It saddens me to think that many of the classes I was able to take isn’t offered anymore. I understand with the pandemic the school year was on hold. I do not understand the reasoning behind no Algebra. Geometry, Calculus, Biology, classes that could help you get into College. I remember a time not so long ago, that if you took Biology in high school, you never needed to retake the class in College. 

Offered also was Advanced Placement for students who are ready to attend college and get an early start to thier degree. There is still Trade classes the high school offers for a head start in your chosen career. I knew many students who attended one class at the high school and then went the rest of the day in advanced classes. I am glad the classes were offered because this is how I became interested in Nursing and I am still involved in my career today.

I hope when the kids were sheltering at home, parents were taking the time to teach thier teens how to balance a check book, changing a tire(could be important some day) how to cook, doing the dishes and clean up of the kitchen, doing laundry, playing championship basketball games, tag football, soccer tourneys. How fun with a BBQ at the end of the day to celebrate.

Here’s  to the start of a better school year where the kids get to be with thier friends, play hop scotch after school, throwing the ball around until dinner, hitting the homework, and enjoy being a child. Don’t blink now, you will graduating before you know it and getting out into this great big world full of opportunities.

 

 

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Coffee Debate

August 21, 2021 at 10:58 pm (Uncategorized) ()

I recently read a good blog post about coffee. A lady was in the airport thinking about getting a a specialty coffee. There is only one person at the counter at the time. The debate comes from if you wanted a Frappuccino coffee do you wait in line to order it when let’s say there are two or three people behind you waiting patiently in line to order thier drinks.  Whose to say the next person in line just wants an Americana.

I think it would really depend on how much time I have to enjoy my Cinnamon Dulce late. There is always the chance your plane could have mechanical problems or the arriving flight could be late, then I would probably think about waiting in line to order my coffee. You have to take into consideration that the there is only one person manning the counter at the time. I think this is a good question of how bad do you really want your coffee?

I also think it is a different situation if you have a friend traveling with you at the time or are you traveling alone. You and your friend may not think anything more of waiting in line while chatting about your destination or your itinerary . If your are traveling to a new location, you may be caught up in the fun filled five days you could get away to relax from your hectic schedule.  I also know how busy the airport can be at times and if there is a line, I may not want to wait because I really didn’t need that cup of coffee. it is a really good question. 

 

 

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