The Empty Nest

October 26, 2012 at 7:34 pm (Uncategorized) (, , , , , , , , )

 

 

I sometimes think  about where my life is today. 

I listen to my friends talk about When their kids moved out , they found themselves planning out the rest of their lives. There were times due to a hardship, the kids had to move back in alone,or move in with their children. I can’t say I was glad to be rid of my son, but he sure could be disruptive. I can remember six years ago,before my son moved out, the door bell ringing at 3 a.m. for pizza. let’s not forget the phone calls and text messages all hours of the night. No wonder Levi was not ready for school the next morning. I can remember when Levi’s grandma and Levi and I would go out to dinner. Levi wore his old holy and greasy clothes from work. I used to get so angry. I asked him one evening to at least change his shirt for me.’Fine’.(you should see how he dressed to see friends the next day). I can remember friends telling me to pick my battles. Single parenthood presented many challenges. I raised Levi from childhood through his teens-no easy feat.

Six years ago, Levi moved out to help his grandma after his grandpa died. It is a different feeling not having to rush home and check on your son. You don’t have to worry about where they are. You could come and go as you please. But the flip side of this reality was Levi didn’t come over and visit anymore. I had to go to my neighbor’s house and see my son or go to his grandmas. I had dreams of when Levi moved out, heard the cool stories of parents and children sitting around the dining room table reminiscing about what mom and dad didn’t know about. I so missed out.

My life as an empty nester has been bitter-sweet. My son set off floating the river one sunny sunday morning in July 2007,by that night both our lives were forever changed. Levi died in a car accident. He was only 20. There are no words to describe the grief I felt that day. I have the fond memory of putting gas into Levi’s car the night before. We laughed and joked one last time. When Levi dropped me off,and we said our goodbye and I love you, we didn’t know these were last words we would speak to each other.

I am grateful for the many memories I have as a wife. My husband died 6 short years after we married due to complications rom diabetes. Yes, life has handed me some lemons, but when Christ is ruler over your life, everyday you heal more, you come to realize the deaths of both my husband and my son, didn’t mean my death as well. God is using me and my stories for this blog. We don’t know what life holds around the corner, but we can hold on to the treasured memories we have to keep moving forward wherever we are in our lives.

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