Turning 60

September 28, 2021 at 11:18 pm (Uncategorized)

I have been blessed with so many birthday wishes from family and friends.  My birthday wasn’t quite the same without celebrating with my twin, but you make the best of it. If it makes me feel any better, Jeff told me he had to work also.  Softens the blow a little bit.

All kidding aside as we get older, we usually are far apart and don’t get the chance to be together as often as we would like. Most of the family had moved away a few years ago, so celebrations have changed. I have a couple of friends who I can get together with for a birthday coffee or lunch. This is really the first year anyone has been able to have dinner parties or dine out . 

Turning 60 this year has not been any different for me than the past birthdays. My life is still the same as it was when both my husband and my son passed away. You have to find the beauty in each new day to celebrate even if you are happy the lawn was mowed. Everyday we live with the choice of being a lemon taster or living life to the fullest. I can always find something to be thankful for even if circumstances seems impossible there is always a silver lining somewhere. 

I really look forward to the next ten years of my life. I have a job in health care that I love, mom is still here, I have the love and support from  my family and my friends, my health, my forever home, my son’s old bedroom I have turned into my dressing room, it is finally tuning into fall my favorite time of the year. I have the best neighbors anyone could ask for always willing to lend a hand, seasonal coffee creamers, my bible study sisters, and so much more to look forward to in my near future!

I know some people grimace at the thought of turning 60, 70, 80 and beyond. Age is just a number that is it. You are only as old as you feel. You know that 60 is the new 30, Sixty and fabulous, I always love to hear “you are how old? No way’. I am still to young for tissue in every pocket, once a week hair do and the weekly pill organizer. I plan to embrace my new decade and have some more fun along the way.

 

 

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Another Decade Ahead

September 22, 2021 at 12:45 am (Uncategorized) (, , )

My twin brother hates it when I include him on any story. But when you celebrate your birthday together, well….

My brother and I will be 60 years old next week.  I don’t know I you would call it a milestone because we have sure been through a lot the past few years. personal tragedies, health scares, we both live in another state, we don’t keep in touch as much as we would both like to, we are as different as night and day. With the virus scare it saddens me we cannot celebrate a nice dinner together and look at model homes or go for a scenic drive around the older neighborhoods like we used to do. 

We both grew up on a ranch raising ducks, chickens, sheep, horses, cows and various other animals we had to wake up early yo feed every morning. Our friends were jealous we were able to ride our horses or play with the bunny rabbits anytime we wanted. We told them we would trade places with them anytime; they didn’t realize you were awakened early to feed and water the animals, clean out the pens, horses were exercised everyday(not when it was fun) and if you have a 4H animal like say a lamb, you walked the animal on a leash around the circular driveway for a mile every night. About this time our friends passed on spending the weekend.

Happy birthday to best big brother I know. We had some good times and lived through some very difficult ones as well but in the end, there is no one I would rather have for my brother but you!

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On A Positive Note

September 16, 2021 at 5:29 pm (Uncategorized)

I can understand how so many people can be well lemon tasters. I know the last year has been met with so much fear, controversy, and unhappiness. The kids were home schooled not by choice, parents had to work from home plus pick up teaching duties, our favorite places to dine were closed, no ball games, concerts, visitations for the holidays were kept to close family only. I get it.

Some people put on a happy face but it is just that a face. They hide sorrows disappointments, loss of loved ones, sheltering at home, mask mandates, there are so many reasons people may hide behind a smile. It is easy to just say “I am doing fine” because we really know the other person was asking in passing or really didn’t have the time to chat.  For some, a smile may be a way they can deal with thier stress. 

I think some people read too much into someone who always seems happy go lucky like they don’t have a care in the world. Further could be from the truth. A friend of mine is losing her husband due to Covid19. By nature she is an upbeat and bubbly person. I am sure there are people who are genuinely concerned for her and her family and those who don’t really know what to say so the put both feet in thier mouth. I admire her faith to be assured that her husband is getting the best care possible and she does have a strong network of friends and family who are giving her support.

I know when I lost my son Levi, I could not believe some of the comments people would day to me. I finally just came home, sat down with a cold cup of coffee and let the remarks go. it took some time to get over some of the hurtful comments but I knew I made the most difficult choice in my life and I know my son is in a better place than where he was suffering. I still miss his mischievous smile, his sparkling eyes and most of all his infectious laugh he had. (on my desk, i have the only picture of him laughing. he was at his friend’s house taking pictures. he had a hairy stomach so he was showing it off for the camera). I cherish that picture of him because he was having a really fun afternoon with friends. 

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Where Were You?

September 10, 2021 at 7:46 pm (Uncategorized) (, )

Where were you and what were you doing when you heard the devastating new that The Twin towers were just hit by terrorists in planes?

At the time, I owned my own Daycare/ Kinder Center out of my home. I got my son up for school that morning. After he left for the bus stop, I started to get phone calls from the parents saying they had called in sick and just wanted to be home with the family. I hadn’t had the chance to turn on the local news yet so I was perplexed as to why I was closed that day.

I decided to shower and get ready for  the day and maybe since I was off, I could run a few errands. Something told me to go to my church and just hang out with the Pastor and staff instead. I drove into the parking lot, went into the coffee shop where I found my pastor, some staff and a few more people setting around the table with the TV on. that is when I found out about the Twin towers and the Pentagon bombing.

I remember how full the churches were the first two months after the attacks. Then after everything quieted down, the people stopped coming. I feel at least for a time, folks could have a shoulder to cry on, exchange ideas on what happened, or just had a safe place to come when there was so much confusion, unrest, and fear going on in America.

 

Where were you when 911 happened and what were you doing at the time?

 

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Made My day

September 5, 2021 at 10:07 pm (Uncategorized) ()

Yesterday morning, I set off to run a few errands. One of them being paying my homeowners insurance. I walked into the office with the Agent on the phone so I sat down in the waiting area. I noticed a cute little four year old playing with her stuffed kitty.

The cute little girl came over to me and just looked at me. I asked her her name and she replied “what’s your name?” I told her and she grunted and proceeded to tell me about her kitty. I thought this little girl was the cutest kid. She let me hear the (now known as a lion) roar his mechanical roar. I did a mock  noise for her benefit. About this time the agent called me in.

As I sat down her daughter sat beside me in the other chair holding in her hand pen and paper. The agent looked nervous and asked me if it was alright that her daughter sat beside me.” I told her of course it is.” the mother told me her daughter has never sat beside someone before that she doesn’t know and commented that her daughter must really like me. ( besides I had a couple signatures I needed to give the little helper for her records). After the little helper was finished up, she went into the next room to to play.

I have to say this one errand I had to run turned really made my ho hum day. I am glad little Piper was there keeping her mom company while she worked, shared her kitties roar with me, she trusted me enough to set beside me and play office for a few minutes with me. I thought it was cute that her notebook had what looked like shorthand written on the page.  I think it is wonderful that this sweet little angel can sometimes go to work with her mom and hang out. so many parents don’t get this opportunity to share thier day with the kiddoes’.          

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