The Uncooperative Yard

August 3, 2017 at 12:05 am (Creative Non- Fiction, Life beyond parenting, Memoir, Middle age, positive thinking) (, , , , )

A friend of mine and I were talking the other evening about what we still want to accomplish before the ed of summer. first on my list would be to get a friend to help me put some finishing touches on my back yard. I would like to have company,but my yard looks like a bomb went off in it. No matter how much I water, weed and feed (the weeds, not the lawn) it is still bone dry. My next door neighbor owns a lawn care service; We look at each other in passing and just hope the heat will decrease to 85 degrees instead of 95 degrees plus. So, I keep my hydrangea well watered and water the brown lawn three times per week.

While in my back yard this afternoon, I was sitting on my rocking chair thinking about my could be a beautiful yard. I had vision and hope: In the corner of the yard are two pine trees that have seen better days. I have my bird bath sitting there with no birds bathing. I was thinking about cutting down the pine trees and putting down a layer of rock. The bird bath would look better placed in the middle with pots all around it. in the other empty corner, I was thinking about putting a bench in the rock and put a shepherds hook beside it for a humming-bird feeder. On the fence, I want to put up planters for colorful flowers. At least when I go sit on my patio, I can look at something pretty and invite friends over for a party.

I can truly say, I am not a fan of summer sizzle. When my family first moved to my small town, the summer temperature was ony 85 degrees in august, now we get into the triple digits. The older I get, I melt. I  could go to the beach and fight the crowds, hope to get a shady spot, I am too old to run through my sprinkler except for when I forget to look where the lawn is being watered and get soaked. (usually right when you are running out the door to an appointment, and  you look like a drowned rat). I do enjoy when the sun is setting,the air cools down and you can hear the crickets chirping, the last of the kids have gone inside, and you are left with your cold coffee to enjoy in peace.

I took my first ride on a Harley Davidson motorcycle a few weeks ago. My son Levi had a best friend who has really been there for me after my son died ten years ago. We had breakfast at the Snake Pit, then Mike showed me where his family goes camping and floats down the lazy river. It is a beautiful area, in the middle of the national forest. My best friend and I took  a drive to one of our favorite small towns. It is nestled along side the lake with small unique shops and old car shows every weekend. I still need to make time to see a couple of plays or a concert in the park. I still enjoy what is happening at my local Library and visiting my friend the cat lady. She lives in a beautiful Victorian home on a tree- lined street. My yard would be incredible like hers, except I do not share her green thumb. I am becoming a reformed black thumb gardner with help from my friends.


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End Of Summer Fun

August 17, 2016 at 6:36 pm (Creative Non- Fiction, Memoir, positive thinking, Single Parent, Uncategorized) (, , , , , )

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Summer is winding down now, soon the kids will be back in school. Some parents are doing the happy dance while the kiddos are groaning. Your city or small town still has so much to offer.

 Farmers markets as well as car shows are still going on. Concerts in the park as well as summer theatre. Some small towns celebrate —— Days a weekend of food, music, games for the kids. If you live near the City,a museum or Art Gallery opening is fun for the whole family. Some galleries even host hands on exhibits for the kids. Check out your local park. In the City, I learned are unique new parks right along the freeway or old/ new use to railroad tracks. New ideas to utilize otherwise wasted and unusable spaces. You would not expect to see greenery growing over the old railroad tracks. Taking a day long road trip to a new town checking out the summer activities. Hosting the neighborhood block party. What a nice way to welcome new neighbors . Have an outdoor movie marathon. Making a huge comeback. And don’t forget a fun day at the fair.

Growing up on a ranch as a child, my twin brother and I were 4-H club together. We would be busy beavers all summer getting ready to show our animals off come October. My parents were the rabbit leaders. We learned how to build rabbit beds and food dishes. We had a huge slate pool table in our living room. The kids would gather around the pool table and learn how to show our bunnies to the judges. (Oh yes there is a certain way you show the judges your bunny). My brother and I also were involved in the sheep program. Unless you have ever tried to train your lamb how to walk on a leash to walk for the mile around your circular driveway, we lived. I would not trade the moments for anything. Jeff and I learned responsibility one being the lambs were not going to feed themselves or certainly not going to walk themselves(what were Jeff and I thinking at age 8?). The purpose of walking the lambs the mile every evening was to firm up the meat otherwise the buyer  pay for more fat on the animal. So many great memories growing up caring for our animals.

Some children has now traded lazy days of summer for the back pack and getting up early once again. We will soon trade hot summer days for cooling temperatures, shorter days, trade grilling out doors for chili cook offs for Football season. At least most kids can wear shorts to school. We can still squeeze a little more of summer into our busy lives and then look forward Fall.

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End Of Summer Bucket List

August 10, 2016 at 8:17 pm (Creative Non- Fiction, Memoir, Middle age, Poetry, positive thinking, Single Parent, Uncategorized) (, , )



The end of summer is almost here. What is still on your bucket list to accomplish? With so many activities around your community it is hard to choose what to do today.

Plan a neighborhood yard party. Everyone gets so busy during the summer Months, this is a great way to host a get together with your neighbors old and welcome the new ones.

Go on a nature hike. Even around your neighborhood. have a contest and see how many animals you see. Dogs and cats are not the only critters lurking around every car. You just might see a squirrel run out from underneath a parked car. I love to hear the birds singing in the trees. Butterflies fluttering around.

Take the kids fishing. many parks have a pond stocked with fish for the kids. A great way to keep them busy and have a fish fry with their catch of the day.

Outdoor concerts in the park. Summer theater, farmers markets, art on the green, a fun afternoon spent by all.

Take a day cruise around the lake. Some have lunch and dinner cruises as well. Take in the beauty of the mountains and watch the boaters water ski.  rent a paddle boat and take the family on an adventure around the lake yourself.

take a scenic drive into the national Forest. You may spot a deer or two,wild turkeys roaming around, stop and pick huckleberries along the road. Take a nature hike in the forest and follow one of many trails in the area. Have a picnic lunch afterwards before heading home.

Let the kids make home-made ice cream and have the grand parents over for a sweet treat made with love.

Go on a family bike ride outside your block. You can get so many home ideas by sight-seeing other neighborhoods. I love to see the beautiful yards of flowers and landscaping ideas.

Host an outdoor movie marathon. Let the kids pick out several movies to watch on a big sheet screen after a pot luck dinner. Great way to catch up with several friends and family members.


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Unplug,Enjoy Summer

July 8, 2016 at 6:06 pm (Creative Non- Fiction, Life beyond parenting, Memoir, Middle age, positive thinking, Single Parent) (, , , , )

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Summer, the precious time we have between June and September to spend with our kids and grandkids.

Summer can be taxing especially for parents who have to work. With so many summer camps, summer school,day care centers,and grandparents,summer can become less stressful. The Library offers a reading circle for the little ones, while big brother or sister can read or play on the computer. A day at the beach is a free fun way to spend a summer afternoon catching the waves.

So many have lake cabins and summer homes to enjoy. A day on the lake in the family boat is a great way to unplug and play. I understand the need for a phone when child is young-parents can catch up with child after school and after sports practice. But now, it seems the child does not want to go outside and play because of the invention of computer games and phone games. I understand family dynamics have changed since I grew up,but families used to sit down to dinner together and share their day, homework after dinner, then sit down and watch a tv program and off to bed. So much has changed over the last few years.

Their is so much abuse in our society today parents are afraid to tell the child no(my son Levi knew the word, I also knew all the police in my area as well). Levi used to go on ride along with the police officers and the local PD handed out baseball cards but for police officers. It let the kids know because you were stopped, it could be a good thing. The kids collected the cards. I think it is great.

Summer is half over so much still to explore with the county fairs, farmer’s market(make a fresh green salad tonight with the kids), fresh fruit ice cream to be made,water melon to be eaten,seed spitting contest, feeding the ducks in the park, fishing derbies, concerts in the park, water skiing, jet skiing, feeling the green grass between your toes, find your happiness with the family and make lasting memories because life can change in a moment like it did for me. I lost both my husband and son. I treasure the times I went camping with my parents and son,fishing, traveling to the Hot Springs, lazy days on the boat, weekends at the cabin, nature hikes with my son, so many wonderful memories of my life as a single parent.

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Summer Bucket Lists

July 1, 2016 at 8:29 pm (Creative Non- Fiction, Memoir, Poetry, positive thinking, Single Parent) (, , )

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So many things to do during the summer months, so little time to do them. How many on your bucket list did you fulfill? How many are you carrying over to this year as “This year I will..”  I want to take in some more summer concerts the park, shop at the local farmer’s market, take a lake dinner cruise, spend some time this weekend where my son and his cousin spent hours swimming in the bay. Summer all year has changed for me in recent years.

My life was forever changed by two tragic events: my husband and son’s deaths. I am very blessed to still live in the house my husband and I purchased together on our second anniversary. We lived here for four years before Jerry passed away from complications of diabetes. My son Levi died nine years ago from a tragic car accident.he was only 20. I have so many wonderful memories of a lively house of boys(big and small) riding ATVs(Levi on his battery-powered one) and rides on daddy’s motorcycle. Afternoons spent in the park listening to a concert or seeing the local carnival. I loved the rare time Jerry and I took a fide on the motorcycle and had lunch at a cafe around one of our many area lakes.

Growing up,I had always hoped to be a wife and a mother,I lived through good times and prayed through the tougher times, but I am a stronger person for persevering through the storms. I don’t have any grandchildren to share my life with as my son never married. Sometimes our lives take another direction than we expected but when we trust God, we are satisfied where we are. I know this is a story about a bucket list but I think it is important to cherish who is around you and take the time to share a meal, play backyard volleyball with neighbors, sight see your area, unplug, and take the kids in the forest-so much to see beyond the trees. the streams are teaming with jumping fish,the mountains are beautiful, watching the kids float the river. Even if you live in the City,there is always the beach(though crowded) I am sure you have a new Museum you can visit or the aquarium. Get the sand in your toes,don’t swim with the sharks though,look for sea shells and star fish and have a great summer

What is on your summer time bucket list I would love to hear. God Bless.

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10 Things I love About Summer

June 17, 2016 at 3:10 am (Creative Non- Fiction, Memoir, Middle age, positive thinking, Uncategorized) (, , , )

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The lazy days of summer.

Days spent at the beach.



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Day spent the farmer’s market.

Grilling the veggies your just bought.

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Eating water melon with the grandkids.

Have a seed spitting contest.

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Unplug. Get outside and help the kids plant a garden.

Go on a nature hike plan a treasure hunt.

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Visit a botanical garden.

Looking for butterflies fluttering around the pretty summer flowers priceless.




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July 8, 2015 at 8:43 pm (Creative Non- Fiction, Memoir, Single Parent, Sons) (, , )

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Being grateful adds to a fulfilling life.

I am grateful every morning that I woke up.

I am grateful for my friends and their ways they make me smile.

am grateful that the many fires are getting under control .

I am grateful for my many readers and thank you for your support.

I am grateful for the kindness of others.

I am grateful that I can still spend time with my mom.

Concerts in the park to enjoy.

A job I enjoy going to everyday.

The times I can go for a leisurely drive and see deer.

I am most grateful to you my readers. Thank you.

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Coping With Summer Ending.

September 8, 2014 at 10:19 pm (Creative Non- Fiction) (, , , )

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Go outside. hike,bike, soak up the sun. The days are shorter and cooler. Squeeze every moment you can out of the days.

Plan a fun weekend after classes start. Rent a paddle boat or canoe.

Set up a tent in the backyard on a starry night. See if you can find the big dipper.

Read a book on a  park bench. Enjoy the fresh air.

Visit a farmer’s market. try a new recipe with your fresh produce.

Cook your meal over a back yard fire pit or BBQ. Enjoy roasting marshmallows for desert.

Time for the changing season,leaves begin to change, the cooler evenings. Still so much to enjoy.

There is still time to finish those home improvement projects we have been putting off all summer.

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June Is Here Already.

June 1, 2014 at 11:09 pm (Uncategorized) (, , , , )

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May has bid farewell, June is here.


Where is time flying? Wasn’t it just New year’s Eve? Now school is letting out, graduation, grilling is in full swing, and so is allergy season. Let’s not forget the bees. They too build their homes on Your property. They seek out to build fancy mansions in least expecting locations. I have extra special fun with these pests, I wear the skin so soft. The bees fly up to me and immediately fly the opposite direction.  Did you know bees can also survive under water in your fountain? I watched one fly into the water to cool off one day swimming around thinking it would drown. NO sirree, after his swim,the refreshed insect climbed to the top and dried off before flying away. No I didn’t have a tiny towel to offer him plus I don’t like  insects hanging around with me. I have friends of my own. Aah the lazy days of summer are here.

I don’t know about you, but every year my lawn and I have our struggles. I water often, and my grass likes to stay a dry shade of brownish green shall we say. Very aggravating to me. Considering my neighbor is a lawn care specialist. He waters not so often, I baby my yard and guess what? His looks better than mine. I told him is was not fair. He doesn’t understand it either. I am seriously planning on artificial turf. I will the envy of the block. I am glad I don’t live in a neighborhood where there is no serious competition for yard dominance. Most of the block would opt out anyway. They work five days a week and like to relax the weekends. I will say I have good neighbors- we live on  close knit block. We live near the river- you hear the jet skis and boats on summer afternoons.

I have friends who live on an exclusive block, all the homes are beautifully kept. Thousands are spent on the lawn, flowers and fertilizer.When I need yard inspiration, drive around the neighborhood. Then come home to reality. All kidding aside, I have blessed with my home. My husband and I purchased it together before his passed away.  I was pregnant with our son when we bought our forever home. A few years ago, some friends helped my up the paint inside and out. I have a nice kept home with brownish-green grass.

Do you want your home to always look it’s best? Helpful hint that really works. Pretend your long-lost best friend is coming to visit next week. It is amazing the results you can achieve in just a weekend. You finish project you put off since the second child was born and never got around to. It is amazing what a couple well chosen accessories can do to take the home from bland to grand.

For some the kids are gone, so the lawn is their pride and joy. They have the yards to prove it. Some couples purchase expensive beautiful motor homes to explore the County, some join a travel club and following one another in the sometimes unique trailers. what a great way to meet new friends. Have fun trying to contact them. Some couples live on exclusive golf courses and start a new hobby, while other couples plan the next get-together. the second half of life is fun and exciting with new horizons to explore.People ask me how I plan on spending my summer, The same, working, caring for my mom and of course my passion writing. I love my job in Health care, I am mending my relationship with my mom and enjoying the benefits of writing. As I heal from the deaths of both my husband and son, I remember long forgotten memories. some stories are easy to write, others more painful, the grief lessens with time and God gave my the desires of my heart. I had been  both a wife and mother even if for a little while. God has walked me through some of the darkest and painful days of my life and He has taught me to look forward to tomorrow and good thing in store for me. thank you all for supporting my blog and the kind comments. Happy June.

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Have a happy And safe Holiday

September 2, 2012 at 8:49 pm (Uncategorized) (, , , , , , )

It is hard to believe that tomorrow is Labor day!

Where has the summer gone? I can remember it was almost yesterday, when the kids were letting out of school for the summer vacation. Now, they are heading back already. I still get a big kick out of shopping around school time. I love to hear the parents interact with the children because not so long ago, I was there also. Levi was easy to buy for. My son  knew there were only him and I in the household since his dad died,and I did not have the money for the brand names in clothes and shoes, so he didn’t ask me to buy them. His school supplies cost enough as it was.

I have a fond memory of when my mom, my son and I spent the day together. I remember we went for a drive and had lunch and then we went shopping. I found Levi two tee-shirts I thought he might like. Levi found two pair of jeans he did like. Both outfits cost me a total of $17.00. As we were leaving the store, my son came beside me and commented ” can we go to Wal-Mart next after we drop Grandma off home and do some more shopping?’ We never made it back to Wal-Mart. the last photo I had taken of my son was in front of his beloved car. he was wearing the jeans I had bought for him a couple of weeks before. My son died in a car accident a few weeks later.I treasure every memory I have been given.

Tomorrow is Labor Day. I give a big thank you to the men and woman of the Armed Forces who have served our country to give me the freedoms I can enjoy. My brother was a Marine. I am very proud of the man he became. I do not get to see much of my brother. Like so many of us, we are scattered across the country.

Tomorrow, my mom’s neighbors are having a BBQ. We talked my mom into going. My mom has had a hard time since my dad and my son has passed away.I am glad the neighbors have adopted my mom and I as an extended family. They get her mail for her and visit with her when I am unable to due to working.The neighbors were a lot of help when my dad progressed in his illness. I can remember when my dad could still participate in outings, both families would go to a nearby lake and go boating or fishing. In the winter, Darren across the street had an ATV. We would either go sledding behind his ATV or behind my dads jeep. I sometimes miss the old neighborhood. The families moved and the kids grew up as they will do. Mom lives in a nice neighborhood still, just quieter. The house is quieter because Levi isn’t playing one of his computer games and kids calling until 12 o’clock anymore. Miss those days…..

everyone have a happy and safe Holiday. Some parents will cry the first day they drop their child off to school, the others come to my house for coffee!

God richly bless every one of my readers.

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